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Holiday Love: 50 Great Gift Ideas For The Lady In Your Life

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Holiday Love: 50 Great Gift Ideas For The Lady In Your Life

By Celli Arenas

If you really love her, if you can’t see her or you with anybody else, go for it, & do it now! The holidays are the perfect time to propose. Remember, the greatest gift in the world is love; it’s priceless, but rings are not…Get her a ring that she will truly appreciate. Check out some beautiful sparklers here.

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So, okay…you’re too chicken to take that leap of faith and make a commitment. Fine, hold on a little longer, observe her, get to know her, grow to accept her family as being a part of her, but position yourself in her life so that her bond with you is even stronger.

Here are some safer gift ideas for the lady you like (but aren’t ready to marry, yet). These gifts may keep her around for a little while longer while you try to figure things out.

1. Tickets to a show, Cirque Du Soleil is in Miami this holiday season.

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Cirque Du Soleil Amaluna

2. A magazine subscription is a great gift that lasts all year. Women love magazines.

3. Beats by Dre Headphones in her favorite color. Cute!

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Beats by Dre

4. Specialty playing cards, for your gambling girl.

5. A best-selling book, like “Sidetracked: He Used To Love Me” (hint, hint)

6. A movie and dinner at a dinner theater. Check your local theaters to see if there is one in your part of town.
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7. Kindle Fire or iPad and a download of “Sidetracked: He Used To Love Me“. Excellent gift!

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8. A gift basket with her favorite wine, cheese, and crackers.

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Hickory Farm Gift Basket

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9. Tickets to a Miami Heat Game. (hello…anybody here?)

10. A set of DVD‘s themed around her favorite actor, director or film era. (John Hughes, 80’s movies: Sixteen Candles, Pretty in Pink, Weird Science, The Breakfast Club).

11. A bottle of wine and a new board game. Notice that wine is mentioned here, a lot. Can’t go wrong with wine!

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Red wine

12. Egyptian Cotton pajamas…because flannel is for your grandma.

13. Silk robe …because flannel is for your grandma.

14. Custom ordered monogrammed stationery, because she is fancy and you like that about her.

15. A Spa Day at a luxury spa (no strip mall deals).  Strip mall salons/spas are fine for routine maintenance, but it is the holiday season.  Step your game up!

Mandarin Oriental

Mandarin Oriental Spa Miami

16. A monogrammed set of sheets, bath sheets, hand towels, socks, etc. Anything with HER initials on it, will let her know that you put forth effort to get her something unique.

17. A designer clutch. Smaller versions of designer bags are usually less expensive and  more affordable.

18. A Gift Card to Bloomingdales or Nordstrom’s. She may catch a great sale!

19. A set of deluxe makeup brushes. Sephora has lots of great gifts for your lady friend(s) [players with multiple babes].

Deluxe Makeup Brush Set

Deluxe Makeup Brush Set

20. A monogrammed makeup bag. Again, her initials, her territory! She likes that.

21. A hair makeover (new style, length, texture, color). Spice things up with a “new thing.”

22. A boudoir photo session with an experienced photographer. Ultimate sexy gift for the both of you.

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23. Precious stone jewelry. Not a diamond, yet…but getting closer!

24. A candle…because candles are sexy.

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Blue Sage Boutique

25. All-natural soaps. I love patchouli soap by Zum Bar. What an aphrodisiac!

Zum Bar Soap

Zum Bar Soap

26. Holistic beauty treatments such as bath salts and scented astringents, body washes.

Blue Sage Boutique

Blue Sage Boutique

27. A crystal vase. Fill it with flowers too, by the way.

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Crystal Vase

28. A throw for the couch…for when you are “watching a movie.”

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Faux Fur Throw

29. A crafted personal project: photo album or scrapbook. Cute idea for your first Holiday, (after one year).

30. Assorted jars of olives, pickles, jams and marmalades. I’m reaching…I know. I hope she doesn’t throw them at you, lol. Get her this if she is over 30 years old, and knows the value of good olives.

31. Her favorite cake or pastry. Again, I hope she doesn’t throw it at you! Get her this if you’ve been dating for a short period of time, like a week.

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Cakes

32. Dance lessons: introductory ballroom, salsa or flamenco dance class, (twerk & pole dancing count too)…I’m just saying…

33. Nice workout gear. Matching joggers with great athletic shoes, this is an awesome gift! If she doesn’t work out regularly, don’t try it. You might not last for New Years.

Workout Gear

Workout Gear

34. A flight bag, camera case or classy travel kit monogrammed with her initials! Put her name on anything and you WIN! Oh yeah, take her somewhere where she can use it, and you win. Travel wins…FYI.

35. A class in something she’s interested in learning more about ( real estate, cosmetology, insurance, bond surety).  If you help a woman discover an opportunity that will improve the quality of her life, she will know that she matters to you.  That’s important.

36. A session with a personal trainer, Pilates instructor, reflexologist or nutritionist. Help her achieve the goals she set for herself. Don’t try to CHANGE her into someone else. Support her by listening to what she wants to do for herself with her own life and support that.  Don’t try to recreate her into what you think is a “better” person.  That’s rude.

37. A hot new gadget. Go to Radio Shack or shop at amazon to discover the latest in tech gear. Grab her something innovative.

38. Gardening tools, a flowering plant or a gift certificate to her local gardening center. Just please, avoid buying her a hoe (for obvious reasons).

39. Vintage perfume tray, with a perfume atomizer. Very nice gift, especially when paired with a new fragrance.

perfume tray

perfume tray

40. A matching accessories set like a matching hat and scarf, and sunglasses.  A nice gift for seasonal locations.  Her gift must be useful.

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amazon shop

41. A Keurig machine with gourmet coffee, for when you are still around in the morning for breakfast.

42. Sushi-making supplies; and FRESH ingredients to make some sushi magic with.

43. A fabulous bottle of champagne, Perrier-Jouët is my favorite.  She may or may not have a favorite, so trust me on this one.

44. Dinner to a five-star restaurant: Prime 112, is a beautiful restaurant nestled on a quiet corner on South Beach in Miami, Florida. An after dinner stroll down Collins, makes for a fantastic shared experience. Am I recommending that you take her on a trip to Miami.  Yes, take her somewhere…sheesh!

45. Luxe table linens, napkin rings and place card holders, for your first dinner that you host together.

46. Godiva chocolates…enough said.

47. Caviar, foie gras and brie, just because she may not have ever had her own.

48. A deluxe picnic basket. Make use of it too! Fill it with dinner and make her gift a surprise event.

49. A custom crafted recipe book with recipes of meals you’ve shared together. Show her that you remember the little things.

50. An Ugly Christmas Sweater. Then surprise her by gathering a few friends who are also wearing Ugly Christmas Sweaters at your very own Ugly Christmas Sweater Party.

Ugly Christmas Sweater Party

Ugly Christmas Sweater Party

The holidays are special, let her know that you think she is too. Don’t just say, “have a happy holiday season,” make it happen.

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Holiday Love: Holiday Dating Tips

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Holiday Love: Holiday Dating Tips

By, Celli Arenas

Tis the season to be jolly. Take your time getting to know new people, date, court, and find that person who adds a twinkle to your eyes. The holidays provide great opportunities to go out and enjoy the company of someone special. Dr. Helen Fisher offers the following tips:

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1. “Family and romance don’t always mix. Be careful about including him or her in family holiday activities.” Unless you feel that both parties can mix well together, you may want to wait until after the holidays to have a meet and greet.

2. “Curb your generosity when buying your date presents or she/he may think you are more serious than you really are.” Remember it is the thought that counts. A nice scarf, bottle of wine, gift certificate for a mani/pedi, a nice candle or set of candles, are all thoughtful and appropriate for someone you are dating casually.

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3. “Do something “different” with your date like a carriage ride, skating, sledding or driving.” Do something different. Definitely don’t do the office party, unless you are ready for the co-workers to start planning your wedding.

****Unique activities drive up dopamine in the brain and can stimulate romance.****

4. “Holding hands with your date can affect oxytocin levels in the brain and increase feelings of trust and attachment.” Kiss if and when you are ready. Lots of oxytocin involved, for sure.

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5. “At holiday parties, introduce your date to your friends, explain who people are, how you know them, and then continually include your date in your conversations.” DON’T CALL YOUR DATE “A FRIEND”. If he/she is your date, be honest.

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6. “There is a fine line between bragging and telling your date about yourself.” Let him or her get some airtime in the conversation too. Don’t hog the conversation talking about yourself.

7. “If you are drinking alcohol, be aware of how much you are drinking during your date.” Two is plenty; but, if you are driving try to space out your intake (drink water in between and no drinks for at least an hour before you drive). Trust me on this…😏

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8. “Don’t listen to everything your friends and family say about your date.” You’re dating this person, not them. Remember, they aren’t in the relationship, you are. Unless there is physical, emotional, or financial abuse going on, keep your business to yourself.

9. “Be on time or call your date and let them know you are running late.” Everybody has things that come up, be flexible, but don’t be a doormat.

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10. “If you have the holiday blues, try not to let it affect your date or consider waiting to date until after the holidays.” Keep it at home sad Sally! It’s time to turn up!

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Remember, holidays are to be enjoyed. Have a great holiday season!

Join my friends Michelle and Amber and me, as we discuss more great holiday tips! Monday night 8:30-9:00pm on Twitter #holidazechat

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Holiday Love : It’s The Little Things

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Holiday Love : It’s The Little Things

By Celli Arenas

It’s not the gift, it’s the thought that counts. There is no greater present than your presence. Show your appreciation in the smallest gestures, they count! The effort that you show makes things between you two, even better. These little things make a huge difference, and a happy partner.

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1. Aromas
Aromatics are a nice touch for those who love luscious scents. Florals, citrus, patchouli, eucalyptus, lavender, you name it. Warm the holiday by creating the mood with the scents of the season. I am a candle addict! Oooh, they smell so good!

Great Holiday Gift Idea

Blue-Sage Boutique has some incredible Eco-friendly clean burning soy wax candles that won’t burn a hole in your pocket. I love ALL of the scents. So hard to only choose one! Check their site here.

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2. Tea for Two
“This ancient beverage is treasured by people around the world for its delicious flavor and vital health benefits.” Keep your honey happy and healthy. Morning, noon, or night Chai helps relax the muscles and mind. The spices tickle the tongue and warms the spirit. Learn more about the benefits of Chai here.

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3. Beach Therapy
Living in South Florida has many lovely benefits. Beach weather is year round! Where else will you find 80 degree weather in the middle of December? Take your beauty to the beach for an evening stroll after a delicious beach side dinner. The salt water of the ocean emits great wafts oxygen; fresh air filling your lungs is so refreshing. Walking on the sand not only provides great exfoliation for your tootsies, it also feels amazing. You have thousands of nerve endings in your feet. Think of it as earth’s way of giving you and your baby some “sweet feet“. Nice.

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4. Visual Aides
Full moon, glorious sunrise, fresh flowers in a beautiful vase, satin and lace lingerie…need I say more? What we see engages our mind. The mind is where love first occurs. A lovely sight to see. Give your partner a beautifully wrapped present.

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5. Food, Glorious Food
The way to a man’s heart is through his belly. This is true for women too! Get in the kitchen and stir up some holiday treats. Savory dishes, sweet holiday chocolate and caramel concoctions will get you in the mood for love. Preheat your oven and make some memories this holiday season.

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6. Let The Music Play
The sounds of Christmas bring memories of joy. You know that warmth you feel when you hear, “This Christmas”, or “I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus“. Decorate your home and fill it with the sounds of music too. Trim the tree with your love and create new traditions. Shared experiences are a great way to bond. Make it fun and let your hearts be full.

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7. The Kiss
Usher wrote a song about it, and so did Prince. Besos are an intimate gift that creates a warmth that is unmeasured. Wether it is under the mistletoe or between the sheets, spend a little time smooching with someone who tastes so sweet.

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There you have it: 7 little tips to help you get lucky this holiday season. Here’s to you and your holiday love. 😉

Join my friends Michelle and Amber and me, as we discuss more great holiday tips! Monday night 8:30-9:00pm on Twitter #holidazechat

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Holiday Love: Let’s Talk About Sex

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Holiday Love: Let’s Talk About Sex

Holiday Love: Let’s Talk About Sex
By, Celli Arenas

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Time to snuggle up and share the Yule Log beneath the mistletoe. If your pig isn’t in the blanket and your turkey isn’t getting stuffed, check out these tips to make your holiday merry and bright.
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According to Vanessa Marin, MA, MFT, “One of the biggest complaints my sex therapy clients have at this time of the year is that it’s impossible to maintain any semblance of a regular sex life. Between all the stress, traveling, overindulgent eating and drinking, family dynamics, and financial concerns, it’s hard to find the energy—much less the desire—to have sex.”

I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who lacks the desire to have sex. I have met with many who don’t know how to find the time. Here’s help:
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1. Create your own traditions
“Brainstorm a special new ritual that the two of you can start celebrating every year.” Create a tradition with your sweetheart. Make something special happen during the holidays and make it happen every year. This will spark your feelings of togetherness and unity. That will warm things up. Decorate together, wrap gifts, take a walk and look at the decorations in your neighborhood. Shared experiences are a turn on.
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2. Prioritize alone time
“Make an active effort to spend quality time together during the season.” Prioritize the ones you love. Say “no” to a few of the holiday parties that don’t really interest or benefit your family. Sit down with your partner, and prioritize some alone time, “build some date nights” in to your schedules.
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3. Be sneaky
It may be difficult to schedule some alone time; so, finding quality time can be tricky during the holidays. Get creative, make time to talk about your days, steal kisses, develop code words or gestures that mean “playtime.” You and your honey can sneak outdoors for a quickie. The idea of getting caught makes it extra hot.

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4. Put sex first
“Make time to be intimate before going out to company holiday parties or celebratory dinners.” Don’t go to events to people please before you please each other. All the holiday food and drinks can make you feel sluggish and disinterested in frolicking afterward. Get it in before you go out. That sexy secret will keep a smile on your faces night.
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5. Treat yourselves
Gift your partner with your presence. Plan holiday gifts for each other that will involve quality time and intimacy. Try some of these ideas: couple’s massages, dinner at a fancy restaurant, splurge on lingerie and nice sheets. You may even want to buy a few toys- for each other, of course.
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6. Communicate
The holidays can be really stressful for most people. Communicating issues, talking about your expectations for the season , brainstorming ways to decrease stress together are ways to strengthen your bond. Remember,
you’re a team.
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7. Don’t ignore sexual tension
Turn that tension into foreplay. Think about how exciting it will be to have your partner all to yourself again. Spice things up: send each other sexy texts or emails, or voicemail messages describing what you want to do with each other when you get that alone time.

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You and your partner can turn this season out! Make it happen-fun, festive, and bright!
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Information obtained via Psychology Today. Learn more here

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Holiday Love : Problems & Solutions

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Holiday Love : Problems & Solutions

by,
Celli Arenas

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Holidays = Relationship Stress. If things are going well, your partner is probably right there with you and you have found the solution. Everybody is HAPPY! If things are not going well, you are probably spending the holidays alone. Nobody wants that! Here’s a quick guide to help you recognize the problems and find some solutions.

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1. The problem: Your partner never feels appreciated.
The solution: Go out of your way to say thank you.

Some of us aren’t great at accepting love gracefully. In other words, your partner may not understand your love language. “Many people have a hard time accepting gifts, compliments, even love. If you (your partner) have negative reactions to receiving, allowing yourself to accept the things from loved ones can be a difficult task,” says Barton Goldsmith, PhD, the author of Emotional Fitness for Couples: 10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship.

Find a way to say “thank you” every day. Truly let your partner know that you acknowledge their presence and contribution to your life and that you are thankful. Buy a nice gift, write a heartfelt note, be present during the holidays. Your presence is a gift.

5 Ways To Save Your Relationship From Holiday Stress

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2. Problem: He doesn’t like the way he’s being treated.
Solution: Spend time, every day nurturing your relationship.

“Oftentimes, a man cheats because he doesn’t like the dynamic in his current relationship. If he feels like his partner nags him, belittles him, disrespects him, and/or treats him like a child, meeting someone new who treats him with respect, admiration, and desire will feel incredibly appealing.”
Don’t make it so easy for the clean-up woman to sweep your love away.

“So what does this have to do with the holidays? With the added stress of that long to-do list, some women may be unconsciously treating their men like they’re yet another thing they have to cross off their list, but they just don’t have time for.” Would you want to be 2nd, 3rd, or 4th on his list? Honestly, no one wants to be treated that way.

“To avoid driving your partner away, spend time every day nurturing your relationship. And not just during the holiday season. All year long, let your partner know how much you love and appreciate him. Ask for the same in return.” Mama taught you the golden rule; treat others how you want to be treated.

“By being treated the way you want to be treated and ultimately treating your partner with love and respect, you take an important step in affair-proofing your relationship.”

Make him think twice about losing you.

Why Men Cheat During The Holidays

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3. Problem: He feels ignored.
Solution: It is important to maintain open lines of communication.

Men are like you, they crave attention too. “Like it or not, men are wired differently than women. It’s that whole Mars/Venus thing. So when a woman’s attention is diverted by holiday shopping, decorating the home, and/or dealing with party planning and family visits, a man can feel completely ignored and unappreciated.” They won’t readily admit it ; but, they need to feel wanted and appreciated too.

“Asking to have his needs met can make a man feel weak. Instead of summoning his inner strength and asking for love, attention, and/or validation from his partner, a man is much more comfortable seeking these things from another woman.” Pay attention to his signs. If he is dropping hints, catch them!

The side-piece can easily slide into position, “At first, this new woman may only be an emotional confidante. However, over time, this female friend may stir up other needs. That’s when a man is likely to initiate physical intimacy.” She gives him what you don’t or maybe even won’t.

“To avoid this danger zone, it’s important to maintain open lines of communication between you and your partner. If and when these feelings of dissatisfaction or hurt surface (during the holidays or any time of year), your man should feel free to discuss them with you, thus eliminating his need for outside emotional companionship.”
Be there and be willing to listen. None of us are perfect. If he cares enough to communicate you should provide a listening ear. Better yours than hers!

Why Men Cheat During The Holidays

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Don’t wait until you have to spend the holidays all alone. Take time to recognize how you play a role in how you are treated. Be proactive and have a happy holiday season.

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Holiday Tips to Make The Season Bright

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By, Celli Arenas

The holiday season is upon us. Holidays are the time of year that many people dread. Overspending, overeating, and relationship stress can put damper on your holidays. Here are 5 tips to make your holiday season full of cheer!

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1. Make holiday gatherings a shared responsibility. Bring a covered dish, or bottle of spirits/wine to the occasion. Spearhead the conversation; discuss who will bring what. Create an email list or group text to send out as a reminder 48 hours before the event. This way, everyone saves and everyone enjoys the holiday fun together.

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2. Take pause-think for 24 hours before you buy something pricey. It isn’t the cost, it’s the thought that matters.

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3. Focus on meaning and quality before quantity. Have conversations in advance about what your loved ones like and want.

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4. Curb impulse spending. Buy one really great gift instead of several so-so gifts.

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5. Take the pressure off of defining your relationship status. Invite your friend to participate, relax and enjoy your company. Don’t destroy a friendship because you expect a gift and a declaration of your relationship status to please your friends and family. If you were friends on October 25th you should still be friends on November 27th, December 25th, and hopefully December 31st, too!

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The holiday season should be enjoyable! Celebrate with the people you enjoy spending time with.

Happy Holidays ☺️
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