I’ve been copy editing and providing consultant services, on a professional level, since I was a college student at FAMU. I started out by editing my classmates work and now I have my own publishing company. I currently provide project management, consultation, and facilitation services for my clients. I have published two books and several articles. I have been an educator for 20 years, taught AP Rhetorical Writing, and I worked for College Board as a teacher/trainer of Argumentative/Rhetorical Writing.
If you want to be noticed, you need to create written work that is Profound, Outstanding, and Relevant.
Here are a few tips that I offer my clients that you may benefit from, as well.
1. Great sentences matter.
Sentences are like building blocks. You can stack them together to build a monument to your eloquence. Most writers benefit from making their longest sentences into shorter, more effective ones. You need a subject and a predicate, a noun and a verb, a sentence subject and object. Seems simple enough. Right? 2. Paragraphs can only be as good as you make them.
Good sentences support your ideas. Each idea should be represented in an elaborately written paragraph. Construct complex arguments by combining simple ideas that logically follow one idea.
Every time you address a new idea, add a line break. Long paragraphs are almost always the most difficult to read. Shorter paragraphs the most readable. Your paragraphs should contain at least three to five sentences.
3. Edit and revise, then do it again.
You have heard this since elementary school, but you don’t like to do it because it’s redundant. It’s very necessary. Strike out superfluous words to enhance your writing and highlight your strengths.
Here are some examples of editing notes:
The entire country
On a daily basis (usually best rewritten to “every day”)
She knew that it was good
four-year-old little girl
Improve your sentences by rewriting them using fewer words.
4. Use spell-check. Spell check is your friend.
There’s no excuse for making common spelling errors anymore.
Writing that contains spelling errors are frowned upon and not taken seriously. Trust me, I’m an editor.
5. Share your writing sample with someone who can help you improve.
Peer editing is often more effective than teachers like to admit. Your peers love pulling out their “red pens” to check you. Sharing your work with at least two other people can give you a different perspective and let you know if you are conveying the message you want to share.
Don’t be afraid to read constructive criticism about your writing. Think of it as business, not personal. Pay attention to details and don’t be so hard on yourself. Your writing is as unique as your fingerprints. Your personal style is conveyed through your writing. Do you want to write like a “P.R.O”?
Go see it…for no other reason than Parker produced a slave narrative that reveals the pluck and gall of a man defending the honor of his father, mother, wife, daughter and self, against the power that belittled and enslaved him in the name of God. If you believe boycotting this film is just and fair, why didn’t you boycott “Beyond The Lights,” (2014)? The woman who accused him of rape committed suicide in 2012. In no way am I excusing rape culture, nor am I defending it. However, if you watch the film you will see that the woman is symbolic and highly revered in so many ways.
Nate Parker was acquitted of rape in 2001, “in a swift” criminal trial, according to several articles. Parker has since been in 24 films. He has participated in over 100 interviews. I find it odd that when he takes on the charge to finally depict the story of The Nat Turner revolt, here comes some “well informed” person to roll out his criminal past and then, low and behold, he and his film are buried under the newspaper clippings of something sent specifically to distract from the message.
The film never had the chance to thrive. Before you pass judgement on this man, because you want to go with the flow and join the bandwagon; GO SEE THIS FILM.
Folks, don’t fall for the banana in the tailpipe. THEY don’t want you to see this movie for the same reason why we used to get out of school for “Columbus Day”. Historical depiction of the atrocities levied by one race against the other is uncomfortable for folks to accept and acknowledge.
Shall I bring up another uncomfortable comparison??? What about …..
Woody Allen…and he was actually found guilty of the crime he was accused of…Im just saying…stop tripping.
By, Ascellia M. Arenas
Earlier this week the amen corner got together to body shame Patrice Brown, #techerbae; but, nobody seems to be irate about the buff, tattooed NY elementary school teacher, Jamel Fenner. Women are salivating, sending him meals, and hoping their child gets in hot water at school just so they will have a reason to have a private conversation with him. Fenner is also a semi-pro boxer and, according to his social media accounts, a single father.
Get this, his Instagram, name is “imwhygirlscheat” and has almost 12,000 followers. He appreciates the marijuana and partakes of a toke right on his public Instagram page along with pictures of his well chiseled shirtless body. Interestingly, he is applauded for doing the job that most refuse. He’s even considered to be a “father figure” to his young students.
Why can we see him as being a happy, healthy human being with a full and rich life in addition to being an educator as his profession? Why aren’t we wagging our fingers at him for having his shirt off on social media? Why do we condemn Patrice Brown for wearing a body flattering dresses? She even wears them with a cardigan and boots, for crying out loud?
I’m calling a flag on the play here. This is another example of the double standards that are overlooked or considered acceptable in our society. If a man does it, it’s okay, but a woman can not. Pure BS… But Jamel is fine as frog hair though 😜
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It wasn’t even two months ago when the world was salivating over, “Mr. Steal Your Grandma”, Irvine Randle, a veteran educator from Texas. He was plenty sexy. Did his suit and tie make you feel uncomfortable or judgemental? Now we want to criticize and sexualize “Teacher Bae”, Patrice Brown? You see, Patrice Brown, is a young woman with shapely hips and ample breasts, long legs, and a very pretty face (that isn’t pancaked with excessive makeup). According to recent news, Ms. Brown has been reprimanded by the state of Georgia, for the use of social media, and dress code. In an interview on the Daily Dot, Brown shared her frustration about the situation and how she deserves to be acknowledged for her work as an educator. Brown says, “I just wish they would respect me and focus on the positive and what truly matters—which is educating the children of the future generations and providing and caring for them”.
The reality is that teachers are grossly underpaid, are given mandates and responsibilities that go above and beyond the expectation of many careers and professions that pay much better. This young lady is a college graduate and made the conscious choice and decision to be an educator. All the empty teacher positions in schools all across the US shows us that fact. For that reason alone Brown should be given accolades.
I did see some comparison photos of her dress (pink one) on “less shapely” models and it considered modest on them. After looking at other photos she posted, I really feel that she is being body shamed here. We can not continue to shame women about what they choose to wear.
While I agree, some things are obvious in regard to appropriate attire. We do have to encourage our young women to be professional and well dressed. Modesty is an important skill to develop and refine at any age. I really despise seeing bright, beautiful, vibrant young ladies dressed up like little old ladies.
A young lady in her twenties does not look inappropriate in a form fitting dress with a sweater, cardigan, blazer, or scarf. She may consider “professionalizing” her look with tights/pantyhose and shoes that are conducive for a busy work day with 8/9 year olds.
A reprimand isn’t really appropriate in this case. Had she been warned about her choice of clothing? If so, how often? Was there an opportunity to provide due process or for her to correct any legal matter she may or may not have violated? Now, can we also get a reprimand for teachers coming to work in stained and soiled clothing, tee shirts, jeans, (dirty) flip flops, hats, dirty/unkept hair, and body odor ? I think that it would be fair and unbiased to discuss attire and appropriate fashion for them too, don’t you?
I say Ms. Brown has a few years before she starts wearing comfortable shoes and ugly sweaters. Leave #teacherbae alone! All of this attention may prematurely scoop her out of the classroom and into a career where she is better appreciated and paid for her talents.
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Radio & TV personality,Big Tigger, broke his silence today regarding America’s sweetheart, Keisha Knight Pulliam (Rudy Huxtable of The Cosby Show) and her impending divorce with, ex-NFL football player, Ed Hartwell. The two dated for several years and we all wondered why. Not that there is anything wrong with Tigger or with Keisha. The wonder was, in my opinion, why date anyone for longer than 3 years if you don’t want to marry? If you do everything that married folks do, for longer than two years, why not reap the full benefit of marriage?
Tigger, your statement was cute but…
I read the part where you said…”my father divorced three times and I only want to get married once to the woman I love [sic]”
Let’s use our inferencing skills students. The IMPLIED meaning of his statement is,
“Keisha, I LIKE you, I LIKE having sex with you, I LIKE being your “friend” but, I DON’T LOVE YOU. I WILL NOT HONOR WHAT I DO WITH YOU BY MARRYING YOU.”
Ladies: stop melting over backhanded compliments that are really carefully worded insults.
Gents: If she’s good enough to waste 6 years of her life and fertility, she’s good enough to marry.
Don’t these idiots know that STRESS can cause her to miscarry? This repetitive disrespect is unwarranted and cruel. This Maury Povich treatment, of maligning her dignity by questioning who fathered her baby is insulting, degrading, and disgusting. Pulliam has managed to stay out of the news for her entire life and demonstrated a lifestyle that young women can emulate because she IS a responsible and dignified young lady.
I’m disappointed that some of our black men won’t protect and respect us the way we stand up for them. They parade young women out in the stage of life to get stoned with disrespect and utter foolishness. They are literally treating her like a woman of ill-repute who has multiple sex partners with whom she does not use protection. That is low. Men, you better face the fact that when you lay down with a woman, the results and consequences are literally LIFE ALTERING. You can become a father or you can spread disease. Stop laying down with women you don’t love and don’t want children with. It’s simple.
In 2009, Steve Harvey taught women how to “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.” In this wildly popular self-help New York Times bestseller Harvey instructs women to give a relationship a 90 day interim where she can learn about her partner. During this time frame , as a woman who “thinks like a man,” the woman must not give away her cookie or her “prize”. After all, who wants to buy a cow when he’s been getting all her milk for free?
Harvey also recommends that if you have a child, do not allow your new beau and your child the opportunity to meet until a real, legitimate relationship has been acknowledged and established. Sharing time with multiple men within view of your son or daughter may send mixed messages that can ultimately only hurt them in the end if the/those relationships end. Also, if your child really truly dislikes your partner, DO NOT ignore that. Have meaningful conversations with your child while taking a drive in your car. Turn off all distractions, put the phones away. Listen to your child’s reasons for why he/she dislikes your man and respond appropriately. Also, do NOT allow your partner to convince you to ignore, neglect, or disrespect your child.
After several years of comparative analysis (2008-present), I have found that men want happy, successful relationships, as well. The way you communicate with your partner determines if it will last long term or just be a more than casual friendship (especially within the realm of “friends” with benefits).
So, I started to think about the game of chess. In the game of chess The Queen is the most powerful piece. “The Queen can can move in any one straight direction – forward, backward, sideways, or diagonally. The Queen can go as far as possible across the board long as she does not move through any of her own pieces. And, if the queen captures an opponent’s piece her move is over.” Practice playing chess here:
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Love Like You Are Playing To Win
1. A Queen must be a SMART woman. Every single business uses SMART goals (the acronym means Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-bound) . In moving forward to an outcome of having a real and exclusive relationship with man is essentially like becoming a business partner. You need to be very specific about what you want. You have to see the evidence of effort made. You must acknowledge if you are in the right frame of mind to give a partner the attention or respect they deserve. How much of your time are you willing to give? What is your cut-off date? How many years of your life will you invest in a partner who selfishly wastes your time?
2. A Queen can move backwards. YOUR HIGHNESS, You have the authority to review the status of your relationship and terminate it if it compromises your integrity. Your partner does not complete you. You were an entire person when you met him you will be complete if he decides to leave or you decide to kick him to the curb.
3. Take it there! The Queen can move ALL ACROSS the board as long as long as you don’t move through any of your own pieces. Meaning, what you made for yourself before the relationship is yours. What you help him make during the relationship is 50% yours. What you make after your relationship ends is 100 % yours. Men are hard wired to provide. If you meet a man who does not want to spend not one thin dime, not one red cent, is NOT worth your time, energy, tears, sex, massages, hot meals, washed /ironed clothes, cleaning up of his personal space AT ALL. Unless you are the WIFE with a marriage license issued by your local government that is searchable through public record, you should NOT, I repeat NOT Give him husband benefits. He will NEVER marry you, publicly claim you, nor treat you like his woman if you allow him to disrespect you and serve your intimacy on a garbage can lid. A man wants a woman he can brag about and show off, afford nice things for, and feel valued by. Let that man BE A MAN.
4. A Queen may move diagonally. Make diagonal moves on the chess board. Date men that possess your preferences. See how you feel when you spend time with him. Having sex with multiple men isn’t what I suggest. I do suggest that you meet new people and date without letting sex cloud your good judgement. Just know that God WILL NOT send you someone else’s husband, ever. Don’t fall for the lies. Public record contains information regarding children (child support liens) and spouses(past and present). A man that does not take care of his children, or thoroughly and consistently mistreats the women and children in his life WILL NOT CHANGE FOR YOU.
If he decides to become a better man that transformation is between him and God. You are not responsible for rehabilitating a man to make him “ready” for you.
A Queen does NOT participate in the following activities: prolonged abusive discussions of any kind or especially about an ex from his past, beg FOR ANYTHING (ie. time, money, gifts, food, sex, respect, meeting his family, communication, friendship, love), nor does she show off a non-committed relationship and/or post on social media every single nuance of her relationship with her man. Keep your pillow talk in the bed along with everything else you do in bed. Describing the sexual prowess of your mate rises his stock, socially. If you say it’s good and your single friends are sold on his talents because of your big mouth; you best believe somebody will try it. You may have a lovely circle of great friends who will never intentionally hurt you but, then again…maybe you don’t. Act accordingly.
A Queen does participate in the following activities: loving herself first and best, encouraging her man to develop his skill sets (getting a high school diploma, a college education, completing an apprenticeship, obtaining a professional license, completing a business plan, developing networking opportunities, succeeding in building something, repairing something), and by showing him you trust and believe in him.
We are in a state of crisis: our men and children are being murdered in cold blood right now in front of us, on film, every single say. What this world needs right now is more love. We need to recognize our own greatness and ability to develop strong, lasting, respectful relationships and thriving families. Finally, if you are fortunate enough to be with a man treats you like a Queen, act accordingly, reciprocate (treat him like a King), and don’t ever take it for granted.
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Today is Wendy Williamses birthday so, let her eat cake. Last week Wendy Williams ate humble pie with a side of crow. She took it like a trooper though and ultimately won my respect.
Williams invited Roland Martin, of TV One’s , “News One Now,” to her show to explain how and why her anti NAACP, HBCU, and JesseWilliam’s acceptance speech for the 2016 BET Humanitarian Award, fell short of accurate. Watch here :
As a community we must first forgive each other and move forward together. I can’t tell you how many times people have turned their backs on me due to perceived foul. As a professional woman I have been insulted, called names and utterly disrespected by my own “peers” who have yet to apologize. So, clearly, the sense of entitlement and the idea that one’s opinion on a subject or person is valid enough to share unadulteratedly, is nothing new.
Wendy Williams was at least woman enough to admit her failure, and apologize for her ignorance. Also, she was professional enough to do some damage control and allow someone, who knows more than she does, to educate her and her viewers. We can’t demand respect from others when we can’t even respect each other.
This is how Wendy made it. She’s brash, she’s opinionated, and even when she’s loud & wrong, she can admit it and apologize.
“Oh, yes, I know ‘so-and-so’…We are just friends… ” the common reply of men and women who have multiple sex partners and don’t want to be cornered in to the “relationship” category for many and varied reasons. The reasons may be that she is financially insecure, he doesn’t like her family, she has issues and baggage from previous failed relationships, the excuses [reasons] go on and on. The bottom line is this, and ladies and gentlemen take stock in the information I am about to provide here because yes, I am talking to you SPECIFICALLY. If the man who shares your bed, bathroom, broom closet, backseat of your jeep, couch, or wherever you allow him to hit it and quit it, is not your “MAN”, you should think twice before answering that next “booty text.” Yes, I said text because, if the guy I mentioned above is contacting you, he most definitely is texting so the real “woman”, can’t hear your conversation! Vice-versa for women, as well.
Ladies, “Scientists have discovered that a sizeable minority of women have Y-chromosome gene sequences in their blood. Y-chromosomes are the chromosomes that belong to men.” How do you think they got there? Hmmmm….
Some may say that the answer would be from pregnancy with a male son, every woman who has been pregnant still carries cells from her fetus within her bloodstream. FYI- “cells from pregnancy will reside within the mother’s bloodstream and organs for the rest of her life. Even if the pregnancy was terminated or if there was a miscarriage these said genes would remain with the Mother.” (2015) The name for this condition, it is called microchimerism. This does not explain the number of women who have never been pregnant nor have given birth to a son.
There was a study conducted by immunologists at the Fred Hutchinson Caner Center in 2004. “In this study they took samples from 120 women who had never had sons. They found that 21% of these women had male DNA. The women were then categorized into 4 groups according to pregnancy history: Group A had only daughters, Group B had one or more miscarriage(s), Group C had induced abortions and Group D had never been pregnant before. The prevalence of male michrochimerism was considerably greater in Group C although it was still present in each group. Group A 8%, Group B 22%, Group C 57% and Group D 10%.” (2015)
The conclusions of this study lists possible sources of male michrochimerism included, known pregnancies, miscarriages, vanished male twin, or sexual intercourse. So, this proves that through intercourse there is a potential for women to hold onto male genes and DNA within their organs and blood stream for their entire life! Think about that when you hook up with a guy at the club, or find a date off of backpage.com. Your sexual activity, or lack thereof, has a lasting effect on your DNA.
People who follow holistic medicine and who are naturalists, and spiritualists have known this-now scientifically proven fact, for centuries. They believe that every time you sleep with somebody you are taking on a part of them within you. Not just their spiritual energy but their DNA stays, commingles, and becomes part of you. There is a stronger implication here, “as women [we] are capable of taking on actual physical DNA from the men that we sleep with.”
Ineffect, science has put a whole new meaning on sexual intercourse, “it is a very sacred and spiritual act and should be completely regarded as such.” You can not think of sex as just being a physical function similar to eating, sleeping, or using the bathroom. Reportedly, “many people are misusing sex and have forgotten what it is meant for and how important and consecrated it really is.” Many women have taken the social cues from mainstream media, music and entertainment and have desensitized themselves from the act of sex as, “not a big deal,” or “as a feminist act of freedom” to have indiscriminate sexual encounters and or casual sexual encounters with “friends” and “associates.” Many men and women are giving away sex somewhat freely because of insecurity, or to please or impress the opposite sex without actually even realizing how irresponsible it is.
Look at the high rate of unplanned pregnancies, HIV, HPV, chlamydia, and other STI’s, all because, at the time, it was “just sex.” When we become indiscriminate in our practice of our human sexuality and when we are completely disconnected from ourselves, it doesn’t seem like it’s a big deal.
Recently, comedian & Oscar winning Actress Mo’Nique and her husband, Sidney Harris, appeared on an episode of the talk show, “The Preachers,” and discussed their ideas about having an open marriage.
The couple host a podcast , “Mo’Nique & Sidney’s Open Relationship” where they discuss how their 10 year marriage has worked because of their honesty.
Clearly, many people feel that casual sex and open relationships aren’t really a big deal…Oh, but it is!
In agreement with the author, I have always believed, the following sentiment:
“Now, being older and more connected to my spiritual self I realize that sex is not something that is meant to be thrown around and given out so freely, it is a sacred act that creates a bond between two people [who] love and care about each other. It is so important for us (humanity) to realize this. There is a lot of power and amazing potential within this act and it has the complete capability of connecting us with our true selves.”-Alana Ketler (2014)
In our lifetimes we have been faced with many personal sexual dilemmas, we have made fourth quarter decisions that coud have been life altering but because of our arousal, and or care and concern for our partner, we may have allowed the exchange of our spirit and our DNA. When you lay down with someone you don’t love, you are carrying that negative spirit and you re becoming bound to that person. In exchange of sweat, saliva, semen, breath, you are giving your sexual partner an intimate piece of you. Sex is not a recreational activity. It is sacred and has many physical, mental, and spiritual implications connected to it. Unless you are willing to share LOVE on that level, keep your pants on and wait for who deserves you.
Okay, so I might be slightly annoyed but, just follow me for a moment, please.
ALL OF A SUDDEN, everybody has a new stream of consciousness and African awareness but, we still talk trash about each other behind each other’s backs, we still block and prevent the progress of our supposed peers, we still maintain this elitist attitude toward each other (i.e. I’m better than, I’m smarter than, I’m more deserving of favor than because…)
Keep it 💯
1. Economic Empowerment-we spend money with our oppressors and expect that they will treat us better. This has proven false since the 1800’s but we keep investing our whole check in businesses that don’t even like us, let alone respect us. I will walk away from any business transaction where I am putting my money on the table at whomever’s shop and the person who is serving me doesn’t even acknowledge my presence, let alone my business. What you won’t do is disrespect me and put MY HARD EARNED MONEY in your bank account.
2. FAKING IT-We smile in face and stab in back. STOP STEALING/ROBBING/KILLING people; ESPECIALLY our own. How could you in good conscience make a crappy deal with me and either steal my time, my resources, my knowledge, or my money? Brother…Sister…yes, you!
3. Help Who? -When we have the authority and the ability to hire, invest, and /or support the business of OUR OWN FRIENDS & FAMILY, we don’t. (((Crickets)))
Stop the fakery and be real with yourself first. Change begins and ends within. If #blacklivesmatter Let’s really live and do for each other what we are begging others to do for us. They won’t respect us when we don’t even respect us.
Really, I don’t care if you don’t like this post. I just felt it needed to be posted. I just hope you read it and check yourself first.
Earlier this week I reported that Williams was on the chopping block, well…
Wendy Williams is eating those words that she made about HBCUs, the NAACP, and Jesse Williams’ BET Awards 2016 Humanitarian Award acceptance speech. On 7/7/16, during her ‘Hot Topics’ segment, Wendy criticized the relevance of HBCUs and the NAACP. “On the other hand, I would be really offended if there was a school that was known as a historically white college. We have historically black colleges. What if there was the National Organization for White People, only? There’s the NAACP,” said Wendy.
According to sources at lovebscott.com Wendy LOST the show’s Chevrolet sponsorship as a result of her anti-HBCU and anti-NAACP comments.
Roland Martin, of TVOne, blasted her for her comments and suggested that she, “pick up a book,” because her lack of knowledge surrounding the origin and historical relevance of such organizations.
“In April of 2016, The Wendy Williams show earned an all-inclusive deal with Chevrolet, Carat Media and ACE Media Corp. to include on-air promotion of the 2016 Chevy Malibu. The activation included custom digital content, social media marketing, and was set to continue for the rest of the year,” reports include from lovebscott.com. That deal is now dead. Williams stands by her statements and refuses to apologize.
Notedly, Andrea Holmes Thompkins, President and CEO of ACE Media Corp (the company responsible for facilitating the Chevy partnership), graduated from Howard University.
Not to start conspiracy theories of retaliation but, take note. Be careful about the words you use, the career you save may be your own.