By, Ascellia Arenas
So, I’m sure you’ve been watching the blogs and have seen this beautiful new couple making their rounds and openly discussing their relationship in the media. Recording artist Ciara and Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson have been dating for a good little while and have not been secretive about their admiration for each other. Imagine that! What’s wrong with sharing a little PDA? Some people believe that talking about your “boo thang” will mark the demise of your relationship. My observation is that keeping it a secret and hiding/lying about the situation causes more harm in the long run. Their openness about their relationship has been a GOOD LOOK for both of them in the media lately. They definitely are becoming a true power couple.
Many wondered how “squeaky clean” openly declared virgin, Ciara would fall for Rapper Future, who has fathered four other children out of wedlock. Ciara kept the details of her relationship with Future pretty quiet in the beginning. Once the duo became expectant parents more details about their relationship surfaced and continued during the tough parts that eventually brought about the end of their relationship. Reports claim that Future was unfaithful and continuously maintained sexual relationships with multiple women during his time with the Pop Star, Ciara.
After the pain, Ciara has bounced back with a new album “Jackie”, successful tour, and an impeccable performance at the 2015 BET awards, where she gave an electrifying homage to Janet Jackson who won the Icon Award. Ciara hasn’t missed a beat. She happily discusses her great relationship with Wilson and he does the same. Recently, Wilson was a guest on the Jimmy Kimmel Live show and he jokingly shared the details of their first argument. They fought over her support of Tom Brady on Instagram. This happened before they got together, and the squabble wasn’t as serious as I’m sure her beefs with Future were in the past.
Women and men can take a tip from what Russell and Ciara have allowed the media to share about their relationship.
1. Ciara is a single mother, independent, and ambitious beyond finding a “rich man” to finance her life ; yet, she is still feminine, vulnerable, and ladylike.
2. Russell pursues her, publicly acknowledges her, and praises her value and worth.
3. This is GOOD publicity for both of them because it shows that a good man will demonstrate that he has good intentions regardless of what a woman’s past is. He will not degrade her by pointing out what he feels she lacks or did wrong. Ciara is moving forward with her life, making strides to improve her career and is allowing herself to be in a healthy relationship with someone who seems to have respect for her (and her son).
This positively spins their characters and integrity in the media. He is a good guy and she is a good lady. This popularizes the notion that it is okay to have faith, and to seek healthy loving and supportive relationships with someone who respects you. This message is needed in media today more than ever.
Russell , a Christian, also publicly announced their agreement to save sex until they are married. Who does that in 2015? Apparently they do and are happy with that choice.
We need to see MORE examples of healthy relationships like theirs in the media.
Perhaps we can change the “baby mama”, “baby daddy”, “single forever”, “selfish” and totally materialistic vibe that is so celebrated in media today.
About the blogger
Arenas, published author, has been featured in several magazines, such as: MIA Magazine, Success Magazine, Legacy Magazine. She is the host blogger at cellibration.com, and hosts MIA-Live.net for BlogTalk Radio. Her books, “30 Days of Dynamic Pursuit” a self-help journal, and “Sidetracked: He Used To Love Me”, a coming of age novel, are both available at amazon.com.
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