Monthly Archives: December 2014

Holiday Love: Holiday Dating Tips

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Holiday Love: Holiday Dating Tips

By, Celli Arenas

Tis the season to be jolly. Take your time getting to know new people, date, court, and find that person who adds a twinkle to your eyes. The holidays provide great opportunities to go out and enjoy the company of someone special. Dr. Helen Fisher offers the following tips:

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1. “Family and romance don’t always mix. Be careful about including him or her in family holiday activities.” Unless you feel that both parties can mix well together, you may want to wait until after the holidays to have a meet and greet.

2. “Curb your generosity when buying your date presents or she/he may think you are more serious than you really are.” Remember it is the thought that counts. A nice scarf, bottle of wine, gift certificate for a mani/pedi, a nice candle or set of candles, are all thoughtful and appropriate for someone you are dating casually.

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3. “Do something “different” with your date like a carriage ride, skating, sledding or driving.” Do something different. Definitely don’t do the office party, unless you are ready for the co-workers to start planning your wedding.

****Unique activities drive up dopamine in the brain and can stimulate romance.****

4. “Holding hands with your date can affect oxytocin levels in the brain and increase feelings of trust and attachment.” Kiss if and when you are ready. Lots of oxytocin involved, for sure.

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5. “At holiday parties, introduce your date to your friends, explain who people are, how you know them, and then continually include your date in your conversations.” DON’T CALL YOUR DATE “A FRIEND”. If he/she is your date, be honest.

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6. “There is a fine line between bragging and telling your date about yourself.” Let him or her get some airtime in the conversation too. Don’t hog the conversation talking about yourself.

7. “If you are drinking alcohol, be aware of how much you are drinking during your date.” Two is plenty; but, if you are driving try to space out your intake (drink water in between and no drinks for at least an hour before you drive). Trust me on this…😏

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8. “Don’t listen to everything your friends and family say about your date.” You’re dating this person, not them. Remember, they aren’t in the relationship, you are. Unless there is physical, emotional, or financial abuse going on, keep your business to yourself.

9. “Be on time or call your date and let them know you are running late.” Everybody has things that come up, be flexible, but don’t be a doormat.

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10. “If you have the holiday blues, try not to let it affect your date or consider waiting to date until after the holidays.” Keep it at home sad Sally! It’s time to turn up!

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For more details check here.

Remember, holidays are to be enjoyed. Have a great holiday season!

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Holiday Love : It’s The Little Things

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Holiday Love : It’s The Little Things

By Celli Arenas

It’s not the gift, it’s the thought that counts. There is no greater present than your presence. Show your appreciation in the smallest gestures, they count! The effort that you show makes things between you two, even better. These little things make a huge difference, and a happy partner.

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1. Aromas
Aromatics are a nice touch for those who love luscious scents. Florals, citrus, patchouli, eucalyptus, lavender, you name it. Warm the holiday by creating the mood with the scents of the season. I am a candle addict! Oooh, they smell so good!

Great Holiday Gift Idea

Blue-Sage Boutique has some incredible Eco-friendly clean burning soy wax candles that won’t burn a hole in your pocket. I love ALL of the scents. So hard to only choose one! Check their site here.

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2. Tea for Two
“This ancient beverage is treasured by people around the world for its delicious flavor and vital health benefits.” Keep your honey happy and healthy. Morning, noon, or night Chai helps relax the muscles and mind. The spices tickle the tongue and warms the spirit. Learn more about the benefits of Chai here.

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3. Beach Therapy
Living in South Florida has many lovely benefits. Beach weather is year round! Where else will you find 80 degree weather in the middle of December? Take your beauty to the beach for an evening stroll after a delicious beach side dinner. The salt water of the ocean emits great wafts oxygen; fresh air filling your lungs is so refreshing. Walking on the sand not only provides great exfoliation for your tootsies, it also feels amazing. You have thousands of nerve endings in your feet. Think of it as earth’s way of giving you and your baby some “sweet feet“. Nice.

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4. Visual Aides
Full moon, glorious sunrise, fresh flowers in a beautiful vase, satin and lace lingerie…need I say more? What we see engages our mind. The mind is where love first occurs. A lovely sight to see. Give your partner a beautifully wrapped present.

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5. Food, Glorious Food
The way to a man’s heart is through his belly. This is true for women too! Get in the kitchen and stir up some holiday treats. Savory dishes, sweet holiday chocolate and caramel concoctions will get you in the mood for love. Preheat your oven and make some memories this holiday season.

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6. Let The Music Play
The sounds of Christmas bring memories of joy. You know that warmth you feel when you hear, “This Christmas”, or “I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus“. Decorate your home and fill it with the sounds of music too. Trim the tree with your love and create new traditions. Shared experiences are a great way to bond. Make it fun and let your hearts be full.

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7. The Kiss
Usher wrote a song about it, and so did Prince. Besos are an intimate gift that creates a warmth that is unmeasured. Wether it is under the mistletoe or between the sheets, spend a little time smooching with someone who tastes so sweet.

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There you have it: 7 little tips to help you get lucky this holiday season. Here’s to you and your holiday love. 😉

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Holiday Love: It’s Scientific: Get Busy!

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By Celli Arenas

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Ever wonder why your “boo” has such a powerful hold on you? It’s scientific.
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The human brain releases chemicals into our bodies that have a similar response to eating tons of sugar, drinking coffee, or anything else that is considered “addictive”. Don’t be scared, love is a GOOD drug.
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Lust is the trigger, “This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.” The first glimmer of love is in initial attraction. The human brain knows within 90 seconds and 4 minutes if there is sexual interest and /or attraction.
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The second stage is attraction. Attraction is a combination of two chemicals released in the brain: adrenaline and dopamine.

Adrenaline
“The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenaline and cortisol.”
This makes your mouth go dry and your heart pump like that booming bass! Talk about warming things up…
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Dopamine
“This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine!” Say no to dope. Say yes to love, especially during the Holiday Season.
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The final stage is attachment.
Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together. Scientists project that there are two major hormones involved in creating attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.

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Oxytocin
Oxytocin is a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm. Scientists add that oxytocin deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. So, during the holidays get a little closer to the one you love.
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“The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.”

Vasopressin
“Vasopressin is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex.”

Vasopressin (also called anti-diuretic hormone) works with your kidneys to control thirst. So when you hear folks say, “he/she is thirsty”, they are absolutely correct. Keep your honey hydrated this Holiday Season!

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Discover more scientific love facts here. Don’t forget the mistletoe! Happy Holidays ☺️

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