Holiday Love: The Gift of Lingerie

By, Celli Arenas

Holliday gift giving time fellas…Want to keep your lady laced? Purchasing lingerie can be a daunting task. Will she want lingerie? Do you know how to buy her the right type of lingerie?

I’ve done some probing on the net, and I have compiled some helpful hints regarding the great lingerie debate. Should she wear lingerie or go au naturale? Let’s explore the options.

I read an article which prompted me to ask men how they felt about lingerie. The article suggests, “as you all know fellas (bros, dudes, men and boys, included) are relatively visual when it comes to arousal. Girly mags (and lad mags), strip clubs, wet clothing contests and internet pornography are more popular with us because of this. Because of this ocular love-Jones, we appreciate a good-looking pair of panties.”

Then, I did an informal survey on my Facebook page about wether or not men even like the idea of lingerie. Here’s what some of the men had to say…

One reader said, “lingerie gets men excited and entices them. Even though it’s coming off, the lingerie adds flavor, sparks, and mental action to the physical action which is on the way! 😉”

Another reader, ST, added this tip, “get to know YOUR man. I personally like it but I’m also a MANIAC about boy shorts and long tee’s. The worst thing in the world for relationships is to bring ANOTHER man’s preferences into YOUR man’s bedroom.”

The conversation sparked a lot of responses regarding price and utility.

KD responds, “I’m against all over board spending, but if she feels good things go better for me in the bedroom,” so he says that he approves. He did question the heels and bikini combo though.

RB says, “they [men] like for you to show off your figure and appreciate the beauty of you. [So] He can be proud, blessed, and brag about you with his friends.”

JC offers his advice, ” nothing like buying something nice you want to see [on] her.” JC, also adds, “there is something really sexy about lingerie shopping with your woman…you learn some interesting things about each other…a lot of intimacy building right there.”

So now we know that men like lingerie, so let’s be clear about a few things, “let’s start by clearing up a misunderstanding that will make it easier to buy lingerie. Many people think the word “lingerie” means revealing underthings. No, no, no. Lingerie, according to the people who invented the word (the French), means sous-vêtements—a pretty little word for plain ol’ underwear.”

Please understand that your partner considers lingerie to be anything from a pair of cotton Jockey drawers to a stringy little g-string. Once you learn your partner the process of shopping becomes much easier.

“If it were up to the men, your underwear drawer would be overflowing with lace, frills, and garter belts. In a pretty unsurprising survey, U.K. lingerie company Bluebella found that men prefer lingerie that’s bright, fun, and barely there, while women prefer comfortable and practical picks, reports The Daily Mail. ” Find some colorful options at VS. I do find that Victoria Secret doesn’t really carry many options for fuller figured women. So, be sure that you understand her size, shape, and build.

“84 percent of women say they have special sets of sex lingerie, according to the survey. You know the kind—they make you feel like vixen, highlight all your best assets, but are totally impractical for everyday wear. In fact, 89 percent of the women surveyed said that these special sets make them more sexually confident.” Yes women like pretty panties and bras. They purchase these items for themselves fellas, you are just lucky enough to get to see them!

Shopping for her lingerie can be a challenge, “But there is lingerie for every style personality and the most expensive lingerie isn’t necessarily always the best. Sure, there’s something exciting about splurging on some Agent Provocateur and Kiki de Montparnasse when your budget allows, but is it really worth it?

Helpful Hints

The experts advise the following: “Spend wisely: The good news is that you don’t need to spend a fortune to buy good-quality lingerie. While you’re unlikely to find a high quality bra for under $45 or great panties for under $12, many brands do mark up their stuff by a ton. So unless your picks have a lot of delicate embroidery or French lace made in traditional looms you don’t need to spend an excessive amount of money.” Find sales or ask a female family member or friend with great taste to help you make proper selections.

Also, “keep it classy: Don’t buy crotchless underwear, anything that’s described with the words “spank” or “peek-a-boo” or that involves stickers, or anything one might see in a strip show. If you want her to wear it often, choose materials that are soft and comfortable. Pay attention to what she wears now. Some women don’t like lace so if you haven’t seen her wear it, stay away.” If you are going for a romantic appeal, stay away from the rough stuff. Something pretty, dainty, and delicate will win you sweetheart points.

If you and your lady like it a little more rough, go for bondage wear, leather, metallics, and other accessories to make your play time more interesting, remember you need to know your partner. It is the thought that counts!

Whatever you choose, keep in mind that the holidays are a time for giving. If you want to give a gift that keeps on giving you may want to make it lingerie. Happy Holidays!