He thinks that you are worthless, in any way…
He tells you things that destroy your self-esteem…
He refuses to protect you from harm…
He will not pick you up if he saw you walking….
He will not make sure you have a roof over your head…
He will not give you a meal if he knew you were hungry…
He thinks that providing for a woman is not showing “good stewardship” of what God has given him….
He fails to realize that you are a blessing…
He complains about doing simple things…
He refuses to do difficult things…
He resents that you need him…
He would rather you suffer than help you…
He degrades you verbally…
He does not respect, protect, nor provide…
He makes excuses instead of delivering results….
This sounds absolutely NOTHING like your father! I hope not, anyway. Your father would never treat you that way. Even if your father did not raise you, he and your mother did not have a good relationship, or he had another family somewhere else; he is your Dad and he did his level best. Your father is the one man in your life who loves you unconditionally, no matter how you look, no matter how much money you have or not, and no matter if you have made a mistake (or three). Your father is the example by which you are to determine who is worthy of you.
Think about the time your father spent with you. He made sure you were provided for, protected, and happy. That is his job and he relishes in it. If you select a man who balks at this responsibility, he is not yet ready to receive the blessing of a woman who was raised with standards. If you, for whatever reason, have forgotten how your father raised you, you should try to remember. Take the examples that your father set out before you and make them your goals and objectives for selecting a partner. However, if your father is like the man listed above, look for the opposite characteristics and qualities which are listed here:
He thinks that you are worthy, in every way…
He tells you things that boost your self- esteem…
He protects you from harm…
He will pick you up if he saw you walking….
He will make sure you have a roof over your head…
He will give you a meal if he knew you were hungry…
He thinks that providing for a woman is showing “good stewardship” of what God has given him…
He realizes that you are a blessing…
He does simple things with ease…
He does difficult things through grace…
He is proud that you need him…
He asks you for what he needs…
He will help you…
He compliments you…
He respects, protects, and provides without prompting…
He realizes that you are a reflection of him and he is a reflection of you…
Our first teachers are our parents. Some are good at what they do, some try, and others should not be parents AT ALL! Through grace people achieve great things or get better with time. When it is all said and done God is father to us ALL and demonstrates the character traits in the list above. I was fortunate to be blessed with an amazing father. I have always been able to depend on him. Every time I have done things well he was there to cheer me on and encourage me. When I made mistakes he was there to correct me and then remind me that life is a series of comedies and errors. We have good days and bad days; sometimes more bad than good. It doesn’t matter how high we bounce up: it is in how we bounce back that makes all the difference.
When you are praising your earthly father, seeking to unite with a man to marry and father your children, or praising your husband and father of your children; first, take time to celebrate the love that God demonstrates for us every day without our prompting. When you examine your relationships with the fathers (& men) in your life never forget that we, by default of faith and grace, always have everything we need! What they provide is an additional blessing to a full bounty of gifts.
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