There has been much discussion of male and female roles in courtship and in marriage. Before we start getting all indignant, we must first understand the role of woman as a wife. The virtuous woman, as defined in Proverbs is as follows:
The Woman Who Fears the Lord
10  An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself  with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet. 
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.
This is one of the most beautiful descriptions of a woman at her very essence. A woman of virtue is naturally creative. She knows how to care for her home, her family, and herself. She surrounds herself with beauty and is unafraid of challenge as it is a natural function of life. Without challenge there is no growth. Where there is no growth there is stagnation which is equal to death. Women are survivors. Women are vessels of life.
There are so many examples offered when defining woman in the role of a “good wife” : while there are succinct and concise roles defined for husbands. To put it plain, “husbands love your wives and never treat her harshly.” (Colossians 3:19) Husbands are encouraged to treat their wives as they would treat themselves. It is clearly stated in Ephesians 5:33, “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” Therefore, it is assumed that if a man can not love his wife and treat her well it is because he does not love himself. Would you not take care of yourself? Would you not adorn yourself with the best you can afford?
All women have the capacity to be of great virtue in the eyes of God. Some women have been convinced that they are incapable or unworthy. They cannot believe that they are noble because people set out to make them believe the lie that they are not. Women are goddesses and are worthy of praise and adornment. If you see a woman who has lost her crown, help her rediscover her glorious inheritance, remind her she is beautifully and wonderfully made. It was written.
The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®)
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